Virginia E

My daughter committed suicide after being diagnosed with bipolar disorder and mixed personality disorder. She was in and out of doctors care for depression and mental issues for about 15 years. She suffered with bulimia, cutting disorder and lastly self medicating before her first attempt at suicide in May 2015.

She was in treatment for about 10 days and came home with a new bunch of psychotic drugs that only seemed to make her worse. She lost her job because she could no longer function effectively! She suffered with depression, multiple panic attacks and extreme anxiety for years that only worsened with age. She lost her struggle on January 27, 2016 because she could no longer deal with life.

The mental health system here in our area is almost nonexistent. We have no psychiatrist and a handful of psychologists that are hard to get in to see. There is very little help available and no one wants to address this issue. I would like to bring awareness and more help to our part of the country. The stigmatization here is ridiculous and has to be stopped if things are going to change. Nobody wants to admit their loved ones need help and that results in dysfunction and suicide for many!!

Please help me change things with the help of this organization. I pray no family has to suffer this grief as we have had to endure. My daughter was a lovely and brilliant girl that needed help but was failed by the system. She would have been 30 years old 9 days after her death. STOP THIS DISGRACE!!!

13 responses to “Virginia E”

  1. Mori W says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. I have attempted suicide twice. I am now fighting for my son who has Schizophrenia, here in GA. He has been incarcerated for 13 months without treatment, was brutally assaulted and was never under arrest. No priors, non-violent. It’s a shame how many lives are being lost.

  2. Kristen A says:

    I am so very sorry for your loss, it is so tragic. I am a 44 year old woman diagnosed with PTSD and Bipolar Disorder. I worked in the Medical Field and Mental Health Field as a Psychiatric Rehab. Practitioner, A Benefits Adviser, and an Advocate for many years before going on disability myself. I lost a lot to these illnesses esp. The PTSD because no one wants to believe abuse. Again, I am very sorry for this loss. I also am unable to find a Psychiatrist to monitor my meds and its a real problem, if I run into a crisis with my medications, I end up in patient. Luckily my Therapist is very good at sorting out medication issues and has kept me out of the hospital more than once.

  3. Ms. Vinnie says:

    I am so sorry. There is not enough advocacy out there for mental health issues. Sometimes I feel like I should quit my job and become a full time advocate for people struggling with mental health issues. There are not enough resources, and even in places where there ARE resources, someone battling mental health issues is often unable to advocate for themselves and take advantage of those resources.

  4. Vanessa F says:

    I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter. You are so right about all that you said. Many people can not find the help they so desperately need. I am thankful for a good, Christian psychiatrist and very experienced nurse practitioner. Recently, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy has helped me greatly. I am so thankful to be where I am now. I have struggled for over 20 years with a major depressive disorder. Praying for others… ((♡))

  5. Amanda says:

    This story describes my situation as well. Here in South Carolina, the people that run this state thrive on making sure residents stay in poverty through denying medicaid expansion, de-funding mental health,etc. Ive been unemployed over 4 years due to clinical depression and when you try to find help, good luck if you don’t have a wealthy family. Then on top of that, doctors don’t take you seriously and the uneducated blame your troubles on laziness and character flaws. I stay isolated b/c I got sick of the idiocy you encounter on daily basis.

  6. Julie says:

    I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter. My daughter also suffered from bipolar disorder and medication didn’t seem to control her symptoms. She self medicated to escape the pain and passed away due to a drug overdose April 2015. She would have turned 30 in August. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

  7. Ellen says:

    For years l have suffered with this, and medication works minimally. I wish there were more support and resources for all people who need them. I often feel as though l am one step from a catastrophe.

  8. Diane says:

    I am so very sorry for your loss. Your story and the story of those I am reading in the comments sound so familiar. I have struggled with depression, PTSD, and a dissociative disorder for more years than I can count. I am at that place where people get where it seems like nobody can do anything to help, where there is no other place to go, and the pain is so intense there seems to be no point to go on.

    I am trying, with everything I have, to create a nonprofit for peer advocacy and support for people like your daughter. It’s the only thing that keeps me going these days. I work to pay the bills and then spend what little energy I have left to plan. I hope to launch it this year. All of us need to find something to help keep our head above water and that will bring light to our hearts. I hope everyone will try to do that. I know how hard it is, though, to find and see your own beauty.

  9. Cathy C says:

    I am so sorry for your loss…..yes, the system failed her and no matter where you live, I believe things could be so much better. I have to pay for all of my mental health appt’s out of pocket and use GoodRX to find the cheapest price for my meds. I live in an affluent area outside of Richmond, Va.

    Your daughter was very beautiful!!

  10. Dionne B says:

    I am deeply sorry for your tremendous loss; I can’t even imagine. Also, thank you for bravery and sharing your story. I’m sure it can’t be easy to put it all out there for strangers to read, but I’ll bet you have saved some lives by doing so. Bless you

  11. SVM says:

    I am so very sorry for your loss. My 28 yr old daughter suffers from bipolar, BPD, PTSD, and anxiety. She attempted to kill herself last month. She was placed in a state mental hospital for one week, then on to jail with new meds for a few days (because the social worker at the hospital decided not to let the daughter’s probation officer know she was there and the daughter missed a court date which resulted in a warrant for her arrest.) Then they just put her out, telling the judge that “she said she’s not suicidal anymore.” ?!?! There’s not a week that goes by that she doesn’t tell ME that she just wants to die. She works as much as she can, making minimum wage, to afford her health care and prescriptions. I pay her rent so that she’s not homeless. But she has a hard time even affording food and I try to help her with that as well. She gets absolutely zero help from the social welfare system. It’s a vicious cycle and I pray every day that God will help her heal and end the pain that she must be feeling.

  12. Laura says:

    So sorry for your loss! My family has a similar story, my sister was bi-polar and took her life a few days after her 31st birthday. Now 11 years later my 24 year old daughter has similar problems, in and out of therapy since she was 15, cutting herself, personality disorder, depression
    and substance abuse. We feel there is nowhere to turn for help and I fear for her life everyday. If she had cancer I could help her but mental health issues are almost impossible to get treated in this country! Its been a nightmare to try and find good treatment.

  13. Kris says:

    I am so sorry that you lost a daughter struggling with mental health. My sister struggled with bipolar for years. She took her medicine off and on and couldn’t fully cope with her mood swings. Sometimes she was overmedicated and slept a lot. She committed suicide after she gave birth to a daughter because she went off of her medicine during the pregnancy and was involved with an abusive husband. I miss her everyday. Before she committed suicide she was hospitalized and the doctor didn’t give her rescue meds – he gave her a small dose and thought she could just increase it over time. Well of course she still wasn’t feeling well when she was discharged and put on a great show while she was planning her suicide. My parents thought she was safe because she went into the hospital and was finally “treated” by a doctor and was now going to be safe. That’s not how the illness works. You are never safe. You fight it all of the time. There of course is more to the story but I honestly don’t now what answers are there for people with mental illness. I am too bipolar. The health care insurance plan I’m had a class action suit because it wasn’t providing services people with mental health needs and families basically got fed up with the lack of response and treatment that their loved ones were experiencing.

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